I heard a sentence recently. It is said that life actually has no meaning. Then, in order to make one's life meaningful, one has to find some meaningful things to do. Then make your life meaningful. This sentence is a bit hard to pronounce. But upon careful consideration, it seems that this is indeed the case. It feels quite depressing to be meaningful just for the sake of it. But isn't that it? Otherwise, why would you come to this world?

In fact, very few people have been able to find that matter. If that thing could be done, there would be even less. If it can be made, then it will be as fine as phoenix feathers and unicorn horns.

The person who said this has already seen life very clearly. It's probably hard for anyone to think it through clearly before the age of 30. The meaning of life lies in your own definition. You can choose to be ambitious or to be a fish. The years are peaceful and quiet.

Is there any terrifying scene from a TV drama that left a deep impression on you?

When I was a child, my family lived in the family compound of my workplace, which was surrounded by walls. My parents work at the office and often hold meetings in the evening to study the "meeting spirit". So sometimes, all the adults in the family compound would go to the auditorium for a meeting. That courtyard became particularly quiet. Sometimes my parents would take me along if I fell asleep earlier. They will leave me at home.

Once, I woke up in the middle of the night and found that there was no one in the room and it was very dark. I just want to turn on the TV and secretly take a look. After turning on the TV, at first, the screen was filled with the noise of a snowflake. When it becomes clear, there is a scene of an old grandma in a horror film. It was just this one scene that left a clear impression on me over the following dozen years.

What is 520?

It was the string in the middle of the table when I was a teenager. The neat handwriting on the exercise book and the ponytail swinging back and forth on the way home from school. It's the rubber band during the break and the blue and white school uniform

It was the stop of Bus No. 120 in the winter of Beijing when I was young, on rainy days. It's a dilapidated bungalow with trees in the courtyard within the Second Ring Road. It's a big pancake from Chaonai Market. It's every embrace that rushes out from the street corner. It's Yanjing and grilled skewers. It's a bench in the old courtyard at midnight. Which wandering magazine is it?

It was the corridor of the obstetrics and gynecology hospital in middle age, the first time I held his excitement and his smile at me. It was the first time I called him "Dad". Which sentence is it, "Bring him to this world to save me"...

Don't have too much pressure. When pressure comes, many troubles will also follow. The world is not perfect, neither people nor things. We need to learn to accept this. Impulse is the sharpness of youth; what is needed now is calmness and composure.

Don't care about others' opinions. When you want to stop, please take a deep breath to slow yourself down. Then relax your whole body and listen to your inner self. Don't force it.

When you are relaxed. You will see the light and the wind will become gentle. Your world will be colorful. You will start to smile, become composed and polite. It will create an atmosphere and aura surrounding you. Your will will be firmer, and you will have the composure and courage to face everything. There will be clear thinking and acute intuition. Then return to your original self.

So, please relax.

In this society, it's unknown when 35 years old became a watershed in a man's life. It seems that after this age, if one doesn't get a position, buy a few houses or drive a good car, This person is about to be labeled as a failure and be despised by others.

Why?

Not to mention throughout history, both at home and abroad, there are numerous figures who were unknown before the age of 35 but achieved great success later on. But what does it matter if one lives a life of obscurity and lies flat?

The whole society is in a state of anxiety. It seems that people nowadays can no longer wait for their late bloomers to achieve success. Looking at all kinds of million-yuan annual salaries and ten-million-yuan mansions on self-media. Many people have reached a collective climax, thinking that these things can be obtained within a few years after graduation. The infinite magnification of the successful and the ruthless belittlement of the unsuccessful.

If the age of 35 is considered a turning point in life. That was also the moment when we were about to take off after gliding for 35 years. It's about to enter the most wonderful moment of one's life. There will surely be fear, but there will also be excitement and gains. All that needs to be done is to face it calmly and embrace all possibilities and outcomes.

Life is a journey. The outcome is the same for all, but the experiences are different.

When Xiaoshu was about four years old. I asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up. He said he wanted to be an astronaut. So I bought him a Lego version of the Saturn V and spent four days assembling it. I gave it to him as a gift. I hope he can have the opportunity to achieve his small goals.

If I were to go back a few years, I would think that being a scientist might be a bit more achievable than being an astronaut. However, in recent years, with the development of aerospace technology, followed by China's lunar exploration and the launch of its space station. spacex's Falcon rocket and Marcos' Mars occupation plan. It suddenly made me feel that there might be a chance to see another moon landing in my lifetime. The generation of Xiaoshu is sure to witness, and perhaps even witness, humans landing on Mars. So, it seems that becoming an astronaut is still possible.

The next few decades might mark the beginning of the era of interstellar voyages...

When you are in a swimming pool or a bathtub, do you look close to the water surface? If there is no suggestion, give it a try. There will be a different and wonderful feeling.

The first time I did this was when I was a child and secretly went swimming in the reservoir with older kids.

Back then, the water was very clear. Because I was still young and not tall enough, when I jumped in, the water covered my neck and my line of sight was just parallel to the water surface. Immediately, it felt as if the entire world had been compressed and divided into two Spaces, upper and lower. You can see both the world on the water and the environment underwater. Above, the sun shines brightly and the water sparkles; below, it is quiet, harmonious, profound and mysterious. The sounds around suddenly became very faint, while the voice in my heart grew very loud.
I really like this feeling. It can instantly block out distractions and weaken other senses. You are like standing at a crossroads, facing two worlds alone. You can choose to dive down or float up.

Then, in the sea, swimming pool and bathtub, he likes to be buried in the water, leaving only one pair of eyes to see the world.

Occasionally, I saw Xiaoshu reading a picture book called "The Late Night Farting Contest". So I couldn't help but take a curious look myself. I'm astonished that behind the stories of feces, fart and urine, there could be so much interesting and informative content. Farting indicates that animals have a good digestive system. Seeing this, I asked the little tree, "Farting is a sign of good health for animals. What about us humans?" The child pursed his lips and said, "It's the same with people. When they are healthy, they will fart." 

It is said that in ancient Japan, there was a special profession called "Flatulence Bhikkhuni". Some people would raise their hands enthusiastically and proudly admit that it was their own when a noble lady farted. Over time, there has been a specific term for the trouble of farting - the "farting dilemma".

A previous survey on a farting predicament revealed that 54.2% people would break through the farting predicament within two months to a year of dating, and a small number of people did not let out a fart in front of their partners even after a year of dating.

Farting is indeed something beyond one's control and can make people feel embarrassed. But after all, in the days to come for the two of them, picking their feet, belching and farting will be the norm. If anyone is willing to do these things in front of you, that can be considered true love, right

Saying "loneliness" may sound a bit pretentious, but sometimes I actually enjoy this feeling.

And under this feeling, one would think of some very strange questions, such as why am I who I am? If this world were a game. Sometimes I really want to open up a third-person perspective to see myself. This kind of thinking is very strange and gives a sense of division.

Why is it like this?

A self that has been profoundly educated by life or society. I have learned some skills for dealing with people and matters as well as skills for living. Pass all the levels to accumulate points and buy equipment. Weigh the pros and cons when doing things and quantify everything to view the world. For instance, how big the city is, how tall the house is, how much money one has, and how young one is.

The other self has never changed either. I like watching the ants on the ground and the clouds in the sky. Daydreaming about beauty is particularly stubborn and aloof. Emotional and vulnerable, crying while watching movies...

Sometimes I wonder if there's a bug in my reincarnation process. Two souls were stuffed into the same body, and they were particularly polarized.

Well, I want to have a chat with myself.

There is a posture called the Beijing squat. It's not necessarily in Beijing; in many places in the north, this custom exists. Although it may seem a bit unseemly, the perspective and state of mind when "squatting" down to view the world are different.

Just like how long has it been since you last saw ants by the roadside?

When we were kids, we could care a lot about some small things. But as we grow up, society teaches us to be the best among people. Everyone has become very anxious and sophisticated. Dressed up well, going to high-end restaurants, wanting to transform oneself into the excellent self in others' eyes, but seldom listening to one's true self. Life is extremely tight. In fact, there's no need to be like this. After a long time, you'll find that actually not many people really care about you. What you need to do is to relax and be yourself freely. For instance, on a summer night, a few brothers would squat on the curb, have a bottle of Yanjing, chat and brag to each other, watching all kinds of people and vehicles pass by on the road... Occasionally, I would bump into a bottle, tilt my head back and take a big gulp, then burp heartily.
That's it. There are five or six people who squat down to live freely and casually while standing up to strive.